As you grow older, you will learn many things. But sometimes, we all need that extra push to pay attention to the right lessons and let them sink in. Here are six things you need to keep in mind as you grow and ensure that you focus on as experience becomes more important.
You can’t make real friends with fake people
It’s important to consider that you can’t do your best in every environment and not every relationship will work. It’s not enough to put your best into the relationship, but it’s also essential to choose the right people to build connections with. Some people might appear fun or interesting, but they could prove to be less than ideal companions.
We might not always learn, right away, if the person is authentic or fake. But if we see that they are fake, it’s a good enough reason to let them go. No matter how hard we try, we won’t be able to build a solid house on a shaky foundation. Let go of the people you know to be fake and focus your energy on those who are good for you.
Not everything requires your action or reaction
It can feel that you have to react to everything, have an opinion on everything, and take action whenever something happens. But often, things don’t need any input from you. This means that you won’t always need to take action or be proactive. Many situations will resolve themselves, and you should not get involved just to be involved.
This is a skill that people get with time. But it’s a good idea to always examine whether you need to become involved in relationship drama, issues, problems, and more than don’t concern you and that will ultimately not matter.
Trust your gut
Something very significant is our intuition. As you grow, your intuition can prove invaluable to face different obstacles and avoid issues. Smart people know that when something feels off, they might take action and get out of there. Intuition can tip us off of danger or uncertainty.
You can cultivate your ability to listen to your intution by learning to recognize how it feels. How is it different from other experiences? What is it telling you? Have you seen and known it to be right before? Learn to recognize when your gut is speaking to you, especially in situations of danger.
Let go of the idea everyone must like you
Even if you are the most likeable and pleasant person on the planet, there will be people who will not like you and accept you. That doesn’t usually feel nice, but as we grow, we learn to accept this and let go of the need to be liked by everybody we meet and know.
The need to be liked can become quite toxic at points. It can push us to try and please everyone or suppress aspects of ourselves. But when we feel fine with the idea that some people just won’t like us, it frees us to focus more on being ourselves.
Over time, we understand that we can survive being disliked. We don’t have to fit every choice and every aspect of ourselves to what other people want. It empowers us to fit better with the right people for us and to live our selves more authentically.
You can’t do everything
Every choice matters, and there comes a point when we need to discover that our time, energy, and more are not infinite. We have to set priorities and make sacrifices, just because life will not accommodate everything.
You might need to go of some things that are important to you in favor of those that are more important. Pursuing everything might mean you will not get anywhere. Instead, there comes a point when you have to have your priorities in order.
The little things do matter
While it is a cliche, this doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Over time, you come to realize how important and powerful the little things are. A conversation with friends, a pleasant evening, or even an amazing meal can mean a lot to you and remain among the most meaningful and pleasant memories of your life.
While in pursuit of big goals, don’t miss out on the little things. Each moment is unique, so it is worth your full attention.
